5 Tips for Navigating Social Media During Divorce
In this age of constant connectedness, it is without doubt you’ll be tempted to start “keeping tabs” on your ex after the divorce.
However, you may be sharing confidential information that may breach any legal confidentialities you’ve made just through a post or photo pertaining to your case.
Divorce is a painful and personal decision and should be kept private by all means necessary. If work requires you to be online and you log on, here are some do’s and don’ts to help guide you through using social media and what to avoid.
The world is more connected than ever. Thanks to social networking websites, such as Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat and LinkedIn, you can reconnect with your childhood best friend, first romance or college roommate. However, you can also see pictures of your estranged spouse looking cozy with someone new or read his or her status of going out to dinner with friends when you were told he or she could not make the children’s soccer game because of work.
If you are going through a divorce, you need to navigate with caution when using social media. You should assume that every tweet, status update and photo could be used against you. Even though you “de-friend” your spouse, it is still possible that your spouse will see your personal page. You can make sure your privacy settings are at the highest level, but there are still mutual friends, acquaintances or family who can access your page and share the information with your spouse.
Below are some things to think about when using social media while going through a divorce:
1. Consider going “dark.” It may seem very archaic in the day of having any information we want right at our fingertips, but removing yourself from all social media is the only way to be sure that you have no status updates or online pictures that can be used against you in your upcoming litigation.
2. Think twice and twice again about everything you post. Assume that a seemingly innocuous post will be interpreted in the worst way. For example, a picture of you giving a toast with a champagne glass at your cousin’s wedding seems pretty safe. However, your spouse may say it is an example of your heavy drinking in front of your children who were with you at the wedding and that you probably drove them home drunk. Your spouse may use this against you in several ways, including as an example of why he or she believes that you do not make good decisions regarding the children. Always think of the worst case scenario.