Everyone Wants a Relationship, Nobody Wants the Work
As your relationship grows, are you finding time to make stopping points and checking in on everyone’s feelings? These emotion checks can stem from any topic including choosing whether to move in together or how one person can react to a problem differently than the other.
At the very basis of any relationship, you have to establish trust within an open line of communication. If you are not quite at that level of trust, it may good to take initiative and hash out exactly how you feel before leaping to the next step in your relationship.
As you’re looking to the future, remember that having a strong foundation in healthy communication habits makes way for something long-lasting.
I’m sure I am not the only one who browses Facebook and quite often comes across photos of engagement rings and ultrasounds and changed last names from marriages and thinks to himself: Wait, weren’t you just single?
Everything seems to move faster these days, naturally. We have instant text messages and don’t need to send letters. We can Google something and not need to go to the library. We can get to know someone much quicker because we can talk to them any time of the day rather than limiting our interactions to sporadic phone calls or seeing each other in person.
We are Tindering and Bumbling and Coffee Meets Bagel’ing and moving at such a pace through relationships that there is really only one thing we are not doing: BUILDing. We are not building relationships.
We can say whatever we want about past generations, but the fact of the matter is that many people have been married two or three times in the span of time that our grandparents’ have been married to each other.
Older generations set fires. They would begin to burn with a small smoldering flame and eventually evolve into a roaring blaze as they continued to stoke it. Our generation seems to be setting off fireworks. There is a spectacular display that is quite often beautiful, but unpredictable and ends as quickly as it began. Leaving behind only the memory of the experience.