10 Essential Truths About the First Year After Divorce
The healing process after a divorce is a journey that can be confusing to navigate. There are certain experiences and emotions you may have during the first year after that you may not be necessarily prepared for, such as exhaustion, sadness, and embarrassment. One divorced mom is opening up because she believes that being aware of what you could experience may help you cope.
My journey through divorce was not unique. Like many of my clients, we share common feelings during that first year of divorce that no one ever talks about. I decided to share what I experienced to help others going through divorce to stand strong and realize that they are not alone, they are not defined by divorce and despite all the changes that come in the first year, they have a rare opportunity to make the rest of their lives the best of their lives.
Here are 10 truths about my first year of divorce:
1. I was exhausted. The divorce process is confusing, complex and difficult! You know the saying… if it were easy, everyone would do it. I can tell you that during my first year of divorce I often said, “It’s easier to stay married than to get divorced.”
2. I was sad. The first year I cried every day. I thought my ex would change and fight to get me back. He didn’t. Instead, he blamed me for everything, even things I didn’t do. He said hurtful things to me, made up stories about me and shared them with friends and family.
3. I was embarrassed the first time I went to the doctor’s office. For the first time, I had to check the “divorced” box on the forms. Checking that box made me feel inferior and alone.