10 Things to Think About Before Becoming a Blended Family
Let’s say you survived your divorce, you’re doing well, you finally met someone new, and you’re ready to take the next step to get remarried. It can be such an exciting time in your life as you hope for and plan for a new marriage. According to certified Parent Coach, Jennifer Wolf, it can be just as difficult to blend families as it is to separate them, and that it’s vital to pause and consider some things before blending families together so you can do it in a healthy and mindful way. You can read the full article below.
Becoming a blended family is a huge adjustment. And while there’s much to celebrate, it’s also important to prepare for the many challenges you’re going to face as you transform what was “his” and “hers” into “ours.” Before you take your relationship to the next level by getting married or moving in together, explore the following questions:
How Will We Make Our Relationship a Priority? – Especially if you’re used to being alone on dates or at one another’s homes, living together with your children is going to be an adjustment.
Don’t wait for some type of “problem” to pop up before you decide to intentionally tend to your relationship with your partner. Make plans to continue dating one another or schedule an occasional weekend getaway so that you can have some time alone.
How Will We Help the Kids Adjust? – Your kids may have very mixed feelings about living together. Even if they’re excited, they will probably have some serious concerns about sharing your love and affection. Talk with your partner about how both of you can work together to help the kids adjust. This may mean that you’ll need to minimize the PDA, even in your own home, for the kids’ sake, or that you need to schedule one-on-one time with each child to reassure them of you love and continued attention, while minimizing jealously.